Splinter Spark

Friday, 27 March 2015

You know how for a good chunk of the time, you're idling along with life and there are just moments (or string of moments) that suddenly urge you to take action, whatever it may be? Tonight is one of them. I'm not here to write about my latest food adventure unfortunately, so when I finally get myself to update properly, that'll be on queue too. In the meantime, I'm just going for a really raw post.
Coincidentally, a couple of incidences have happened recently that got me wondering. A friend of mine mentioned that her anniversary with her ex was on her birthday and he never greeted her for all these years except for this one time. It makes me think, how odd it is that we can attribute what can be a thousand-folds worth of memories concerning one person, down to something as arbitrary as a day...

and how long it must've taken the other party to finally let go and simply be able to wish the former a happy birthday without a hint of pain.

Another phenomenon happened in which someone I know got slightly upset about something on her newsfeed that concerned her past. Granted, she was the one that let go, but she hasn't enjoyed enough freedom to truly forget all her feelings. That begs the question:

What would one deem as enough time to get over someone?

I know it varies from person to person and the context too. But I feel, who would be adequate to judge without knowing? For some, 6 months after a long relationship is enough. For others it's not. It boils down to how the individual handles the situation (and ultimately their life), though in certain situations I don't think the longevity of the relationship or event matters all too much. If the impact of the event was great enough that it affected the person's psyche immensely (either for good or bad), anything under a year seems like he/she is just kidding themselves. And by a year I mean a whole 12 months, not a school year.

Either way, it's tough getting over someone, that's understandable. But people shouldn't jump the gun and reconnect so fast when they're probably not ready. It's easy for an outsider to point that out and say that, especially since oftentimes we can have the worst judgements about ourselves. And it isn't until its too late that we find ourselves in pain once again, only having ourselves to blame. Let's not have another chapter of tragedy in our lives, shall we?